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Susan Scheid's avatar

Thank you for this, and I look forward to reading your previous articles linked. Over time, it has become clear to me that many of my straight (D) friends have no clue what it is to be gay/lesbian. On reading your article about Rs, I think Rs have no clue either.

My own thought, on reading this, is that what really separates the Rs and Ds in thinking of the made-up LGBTQ-alphabet “community” is, for Rs: they are all deviant, while for Ds, they are all things Ds need to learn to accept as normative.

In reality, however, while LGB are and should remain accepted as normal variations of sexual orientation, normalizing the kinks and fetishes and accompanying mental disorders of which TQ+ seems to be comprised is inappropriate and often dangerous. If so, then the question is how to explain this succinctly to a D friend who has no clue (of which I have legion).

I am thinking that Helen Joyce put this well in a recent interview: “To me the difference between having a sexual orientation and a paraphilia is a sexual orientation is something that leads you toward what is potentially a fulfilling adult relationship. It’s why it’s fine to be gay, just like it’s fine to be straight. . . . We’re only going to take the word orientation to things that support healthy, consensual adult relationships, in which case pedophilia isn’t.”

Any thoughts?

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Ullr's avatar

Thank you again for your clarity. I feel like I see a lot of heterodox liberals feeling abandoned by the left and considering voting elsewhere because of the gender insanity. This is a clear list of why that is lazy thinking that they would be safe voting republican.

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